The Untold Story Behind Ophelia’s

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A website based on just one risky topic is enough to field plenty of scrutiny on its own, so one that embraces three often ‘unmentionable’ topics must have been born out of lunacy, right? Well..I swear there’s a logical explanation for this. I think.

You may have been a reader long enough to know that Ophelia’s hasn’t always actually been Ophelia’s. In fact, Ophelia’s was originally founded as Thoughts With a Dildo in Hand. If you didn’t know that and raised an eyebrow or two as you read it, you’ve quickly seen the reason why I changed the name.

Thoughts With a Dildo in Hand was an ideal name for my website because it was made up entirely of just that.

My depression began at an early age, and I navigate it without pharmaceutical intervention. Instead, I’ve found that cannabis aids me in multiple manners regarding my depression, anxiety, appetite, pain, and more, and it also has had an immeasurable impact on my sex life. After receiving the coveted Magic Wand as a gift, I also quickly realized that masturbating while medicating with cannabis has an absolutely palpable positive effect on my depression.

I don’t know about you, but I’m constantly thinking. There is never silence in my mind (which can be problematic), and for some reason when I’m masturbating – I do a hell of a lot of thinking. Add cannabis and its mind-expanding and thought-provoking properties, and I’m one pensive mofo.

Then stuff happens.

The lovely combination of pleasure, increased endorphins, relaxation, and focus always sends a flood of thoughts to my brain, and it leads to an assortment of outcomes. It’s always unpredictable, but my thoughts during masturbation typically cover things like: opinions on the toy I’m using, comebacks I should have said during a conversation nine years ago, shit on my ‘to-do’ list, some random song, epiphanies, cool porn I’ve seen, etc.

{READ MORE: ‘Metamorphosis’ – The Day TWADIH Became Ophelia’s}

After a while I started envisioning what my website would be like and began writing down ideas as they came to me. In truth, my blog existed for at least one year in my mind before its inception, and much of it was created lying on my back, legs spread, with my Magic Wand shuddering me into orgasmic orbit. There were so many ideas and flashes of brilliance that I had to have Google Keep open on my phone on the bed next to me because I simply couldn’t remember them all and had to write them down.

My blog was literally born from Thoughts With a Dildo in my Hand.

The name made perfect sense; it was unique, provocative, intriguing, and a little naughty. It was bold, yet honest; and begged for answers. Unfortunately, however, it caused my metaphorical book to be judged by its cover.

My mission has always been to destigmatize depression, sex, and cannabis, and to provide a safe space to folks who desire to share their stories, but my message had the potential to be clouded by a name that made some people do a double-take. So I decided that possibly being overlooked while on a mission just isn’t a risk I’m interested in taking.

That’s when Ophelia’s got its new name.

Same content, same topics, same mission; not-so-direct title. I assure you you’re still getting the same ol’ thoughts with a dildo in hand, just with a new face.

What are your ‘thoughts’ on the name change?